'I want to provide for my family before I'm gone'

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Lewis Daines says he wants to provide for his wife Vicky and their three children after being told his cancer treatment has stopped working

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A father-of-three diagnosed with incurable cancer says spending time with his family is what keeps him going as he aims to raise money to provide for them after his death.

Lewis Daines, 37, from Crawley, was diagnosed with an aggressive form of lung cancer in May 2024.

But after an experimental tablet treatment trial stopped being effective, the former nurse says all he wants to is spend as much time as possible with his children.

Mr Daines said: "The hardest thing as a dad is I want to look after my kids and my wife, but I won't be there."

He added: "It's hard because there's no other options for treatment so you are just waiting.

"They keep me going. I want to make sure they've got everything they need when I'm not here."

Lewis, who met wife Vicky, 32, while studying at Kingston University, was diagnosed with metastatic lung cancer after developing a persistent cough.

The aggressive form of cancer has since spread to his bones, liver and brain, he said.

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Lewis Daines, 37, has raised over £65,000 for his family through a GoFundMe page

After treatments including chemotherapy and experimental tablets, he was told in October that this approach had stopped working.

Having not taken out life insurance, Lewis set up a GoFundMe page which has so far raised more than £65,000 for his family.

Vicky, also a nurse in the NHS, said: "We went from having everything we worked for in the last 10 years to everything falling apart in one day.

"I want our children to go out and do things and enjoy life because that's what their dad does.

"Knowing I'll have to break their hearts one day is the hardest thing I will ever have to do."

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