Appeal for help to find ring with daughter's ashes

A family image of Johdi, her mother Tanya and sister Aimie. Johdi is wearing a striped shoulderless shirt, she has dark brown hair. Her mother is wearing a bright indigo top and has jet black hair and Aimie has black glasses and long brown hair.Image source, Tanya Russell
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Tanya Russell's daughter, Johdi (L), died in 2017

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A Somerset mother is appealing for help after losing a ring containing her daughter's ashes.

Tanya Russell, a grief counsellor based in Cheddar, posted the appeal on social media when she realised the ring was missing.

Her daughter, Johdi, died in 2017 from sudden unexplained death in epilepsy (SUDEP).

Mrs Russel said: "It's similar to losing a loved one as it was part of her... I feel physically sick, my head feels like cotton wool."

Mrs Russell's hand with a gold ring on her thumb.  It is gold and has a circular cut face which is a deep red wine colour. On top are fragments of her daughter's ashes fused to the ring.Image source, Tanya Russell
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Mrs Russell and her two other daughters all had rings made when Johdi died

"Johdi was amazing, she was so funny," Mrs Russell said.

"She was a beautiful girl and one of those people who are quite happy to take the mickey out of herself."

Mrs Russell trained as a trauma informed psychotherapist after Johdi's death and began raising awareness about SUDEP.

"I didn't even know Johdi was at risk because it's not something that was spoken about, hence I do a lot of fundraising so people are aware of what it is.

"We didn't have a clue," she said.

Mrs Russell also holds an annual charity ball in memory of her daughter to raise money for epilepsy awareness.

The Purple Ball is held on the pier in Weston-super-Mare in February.

Russell family members in a train carriage. From left to right Elliot (Mrs Russell's grandson) with an apple juice pouch and burgundy jumper. Danii, the eldest daughter wearing a grey cardigan and hugging Elliot. Johdi in a green coat and on the right is Aimie with a black coat and fluffy hood.Image source, Tanya Russell
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Mrs Russell said her daughter Johdi (centre) "wanted people to smile as much as she did"

Mrs Russell said: "This ring was a part of Johdi, it is so precious and can never lose it's beauty.

"Whilst I'm counselling it helps to keep me grounded, so to not have it there is a very odd feeling."

She recalled the first day she received the ring:

"I was so excited, to have a piece of her with me brings me so much comfort."

Her youngest daughter, Aimie, lent Mrs Russell her ring to support her.

Mrs Russell's Facebook appeal received many shares and she is hoping that someone will be able to locate the missing ring.

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