How to get over a Hillary-sized disappointment

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Hillary Clinton has said she wanted to "curl up with a good book and never leave the house again," after losing the US presidential election.

She was odds-on favourite to become the next President of the United States but Donald Trump unexpectedly beat her to the White House.

This isn't the first setback in her career - and she will bounce back.

So if you've also suffered a Hillary-sized disappointment, how do you deal with it?

Newsbeat spoke to professional life coaches for advice on relationships, careers and education.

Focus on the future

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Visualise the future you want

"Expect to feel disappointed," says life coach Dr Sally Ann Law. "But then switch focus away from the the disappointment."

Easier said than done.

Meanwhile, another life coach Janice Haddon says you shouldn't dwell on what's just happened. "Sit down and visualise the future you want - this will help you get there."

She suggests writing down ambitious but attainable goals - having them on paper helps you stick to them.

Be around the right people

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Make sure to surround yourself with positive people

Once you've set your goals, make sure to share them with other people.

"Avoid being alone and or spending time with people who will just moan along with you," says Dr Law.

"Surround yourself with positive people, ask them for their help and company."

Hillary Clinton not wanting to leave the house is natural, says Janice Haddon - but should be avoided.

"Shutting yourself away from the world - that isn't good."

Do what you like to do

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At the same time, Janice Haddon says that Hillary Clinton sitting down with a good book can be a good idea, as "it can be a good way of taking your mind off things."

Dr Law puts it simply: "Do more stuff that you like doing.

"Walk the dog, go for a run, or go for drinks with friends."

Look after yourself

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You don't have to run a marathon - but doing some exercise helps

"Sitting there watching Bridget Jones and eating ice cream is fine for an evening, but not for one or two years," says life coach Michael Serwa.

Drinking lots of water and eating healthily is important and make sure you do something active.

"You don't have to run straight to the gym," says Janice Haddon.

"Even going for a walk is good for you."

That's exactly what Hillary Clinton did, after she was spotted on a walk with her husband Bill after her defeat.

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Keep the Bridget Jones to a minimum - but do write down your goals

Learn from the past

It's important to take time to identify the mistakes which led up to a big disappointment, says Michael Serwa.

"You have to learn from the past to avoid the same mistakes again," he says.

"Successful people are generally more self-aware than the rest - being delusional doesn't help anyone."

At the same time, remember the positive things you did in the past, reminds Janice Haddon.

Even after a big setback, there's no need to throw all your toys out of the pram - there will be positives you can take from any failure.

Persistence is key

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Katy Perry had to go through many setbacks before her success

Michael Serwa reminds his clients that most successful people had loads of failures before they became successful.

JK Rowling famously struggled to get the first Harry Potter book published, being rejected by all the major publishers.

And Katy Perry was dropped from three record labels before anyone had heard of her.

We don't need to tell you how those two stories ended up.

So look at your latest setback as just another step on your way to major success.

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