Some of you are feeling lonely - this is what you can do about it

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A group of MPs are calling loneliness a "silent epidemic".

Colleagues of Jo Cox, who was murdered last June, have launched a commission in her memory to tackle it.

The cross-party commission, external says it wants to "rid society of loneliness one conversation at a time".

Labour MP Jo Cox had been putting the panel together when she was killed by a right-wing extremist.

First off, these stats prove that lots of you are lonely

Research by The Co-op and the British Red Cross, external supporting has found more than nine million people privately admit they are "always or often lonely".

But two thirds would never confess to having a problem in public.

In 2014, the Office for National Statistics found that the UK was one of the loneliest countries in Europe, external.

And in a recent survey, 62% of teenagers, external said they were "sometimes lonely" and one in 20 never spent time with friends at weekends.

These are the reasons why lots of you say you're lonely:

Claire Finn Prevett, 31, is a new mum, married, a successful businesswoman and says she's the last person you'd probably expect to be lonely.

She says it's because motherhood has been really hard work and she hasn't been able to get enough sleep.

"The night feeding has been particularly lonely," she says. "You're awake, it's dark, there's no noise and you feel like you're the only person in the world.

"I've felt incredibly disempowered. I'm used to running a business and being very busy socially as well as at work. Then life is very, very different."

Another person who says she's lonely is Sophie, 21, who has found it hard work after going to university for the first time in September.

"University isn't what you think it's going to be sometimes. Sometimes it's quite isolating.

"I've felt most lonely when I saw people in their friendship groups and I assumed they'd become best friends so quickly.

"I felt like I was the only one that didn't have anyone to do anything with, which wasn't true."

Dan, on the other hand, is a single father after splitting up from his girlfriend and says he's never felt more lonely.

"I feel lonely because last year my house was full of people. I had myself, my girlfriend, our son and her daughter. We had people running around everywhere and it was lively and busy all the time," says the 28-year-old.

"She left and not only took the children but took some of the furniture that was hers too. The house felt bigger and I'd feel really small.

"There were no hugs from the children when I got home and no-one saying hello. It felt pointless to cook and I wasn't eating properly.

"You think you've got a bachelor pad but it's a terrible existence."

Suggestions for dealing with loneliness

Although some studies suggest using technology and social media can make people lonelier, external, lots of you say that it can actually help you through some hard times.

Claire says she followed lots of other mums for advice and has used Instagram as a blog to document being a mum.

"What I do is try to make light of the journey as a new parent in a fun way but touching on subjects that most people don't dare to share. Also allow yourself to cry at the dark times."

This is a photo from her Instagram feed., external

She also says you need to be brave enough to ask people for help and talk to them in person at least once a day if possible.

Various projects are happening around the UK aimed at tackling loneliness.

On London's tube network, "happy to chat" badges, external have been handed out by the Jo Cox Commission on Loneliness after last year's "Tube Chat?" badge was launched by Transport for London.

Pets and clubs

On Newsbeat's Facebook page, external, many of you suggested getting a pet.

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Amy said it had really helped her feel better: "I'd grown up with dogs and they're a real focus for your attention and it's nice to have someone there who needs you and loves you unconditionally."

And Rich agreed:

RHe mentioned a few suggestions on Twitter, external

Ronnie suggested joining a church or group, Lloyd said find a hobby and Jack said meet up with old friends.

Another organisation, the Young Foundation, wants people to sit on benches more and chat.

They've launched a campaign trying to get more modern benches installed by councils., external

Various ideas have been launched across the UK including a social eating scheme, external in Nottingham, a social restaurant, external in Ayr called the Unity Grill as well as apps like Mushmums, external which helps young mothers meet up plus Huggle, external and Hey Vina!, external, which both make it easier for twentysomethings to find friends in their local area.

There's even a radio which matches your mood, external to music.

If you're newly single and need help, there's more at BBC Advice. Or if you're lonely a need a chat, contact Samaritans, external or The Mix, external.

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