Bristol dad’s music helped him after losing wife and daughter

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Iain, his wife Lisa, daughter Rosie and son ReggieImage source, Iain Moncrieff
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Musician Iain Moncrieff lost both his wife Lisa and daughter Rosie within three months of each other

A musician whose wife and daughter died within three months of each other has held a livestream gig in their memory.

Iain Moncrieff, from Clevedon, lost his wife Lisa, 40, to cancer in September last year. In January, his eight-year-old daughter Rosie, who had a rare genetic condition, also died.

He said music has helped him "keep positive" through the grief.

Along with his brother, he has now used their 100th stream on Friday night, to raise funds for charity.

"Through all of this there was one thing that kept me going. My love for music," he said.

"A year on from Lisa's death we wanted to do something to make Lisa and Rosie proud, and to remember them."

Mr Moncrieff and his brother Gray, started live streaming their gigs with their blues band, Dusk Brothers, during lockdown.

For the 100th stream they wanted to raise money for the charity 52 Lives, which helped the family after Lisa's death.

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Mr Moncrieff said he and his wife "were never apart" and he was in "awe of her" during her cancer diagnosis

Mr Moncrieff said of his wife: "She was the person for me and it was easy."

After getting married Lisa gave birth to Rosie in 2014, but at eight months old, Rosie was diagnosed with Nemaline Rod Myopathy.

The life-limiting condition required 24 hour care, but Mr Moncrieff said she was "quite the spirit".

However, things took a "catastrophic" turn during lockdown, when Lisa started to notice changes to her bowel movements.

"One day it just came to a head. I had to take her to the hospital, they bypassed her bowel, she had a stoma fitted and that was it," he said.

"They said it was Stage 4 bowel cancer.

"From the minute they actually rang me up, it was very much - there's a very limited amount of time."

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Mr Moncrieff and his wife Lisa had two children together, Rosie and Reggie

Mr Moncrieff said his wife, who "never complained once", started to prepare for her death.

She wrote letters to her children, put together books of pictures of her and "things that she loved for Reggie and Rosie for when they grow up".

"Even having seen Lisa do those things, I can't imagine doing that myself. I was so in awe of her," he said.

Lisa was taken into hospice care where she died six weeks later, a year after her initial diagnosis.

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Mr Moncrieff said his daughter died in January 2023, just months after the death of his wife Lisa

A couple months later, and while dealing with his wife's death, Rosie "got really ill" after picking "up a few viruses", Mr Moncrieff said.

"For Rosie, with her muscles being really weak, she couldn't cough to clear her lungs."

After being admitted to intensive care at Bristol Children's Hospital in December 2022, Mr Moncrieff said three days later he received a phone call from the staff.

"They rung me up at about 07:30 in the morning - Rosie had gone into respiratory arrest."

She was put on a life support machine but Mr Moncrieff said her lungs were too damaged and she died six weeks later in January 2023.

"I held her as she passed away," he said.

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Mr Moncrieff said he wanted to give back to charity 52 Lives, who had raised money for the family after Lisa's death

Giving up his regular gigs when both his wife and daughter were unwell, Mr Moncrieff said that after their deaths he wanted to give something back to those who had supported them.

He said: "The way people have kind of rallied around has been incredible."

Setting up the fundraising live stream in hope of raising £5,200, Dusk Brothers have already raised over £6,700.

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