Valentine's Day: What makes a long-lasting relationship?

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Josephine and Aubrey Langley met at a dance and have been married for 63 years

Making the perfect gin and tonic and having a sense of humour are among the top tips for relationship longevity offered by some of Wales' most enduring couples.

Josephine and Aubrey Langley, aged 90 and 91, who live in Cardiff, have been married for 63 years.

They met at a dance hall in Torfaen in 1958.

The couple joined fellow Llys Cyncoed home residents to celebrate Valentine's Day with a trip down memory lane.

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Josephine and Aubrey Langley met in Torfaen and have been married for 63 years

They had their first date in the back row of a cinema in Pontypool and will mark their 64th wedding anniversary later this month.

"We used to go dancing in a church hall. Saturday night was a big night then and we loved dancing, so that's how we met," Josephine said.

It was the fact that he had a car that helped Aubrey sweep Josephine off her feet.

Recalling the couple's wedding day, Josephine described it as "lovely", saying it had snowed the night before and there was snow on the mountain.

"I enjoyed every minute of it and then we went off to Bournemouth on our honeymoon," she added.

Asked what makes a successful marriage, Josephine said: "You've just got to work at it.

"It doesn't come easy sometimes, but at other times its great."

She added that her husband would frustrate her at times "when he wouldn't dress up when I wanted him to", adding: "We can have little tiffs - but [it's] not too bad."

Aubrey, however, describes them as "differences, not tiffs".

He said the key to a long-lasting relationship is a good sense of humour, while Josephine added: "A husband that knows how to barbecue and make an exceptionally good gin and tonic."

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Olwen and Arthur Hayward are the 15th oldest couple in the UK where both are over the age of 100

Olwen and Arthur Hayward, aged 100 and 101, have been married for more than 75 years, and are the 15th oldest married couple in the UK where both spouses are aged over 100.

The pair met in 1943 and enjoyed a scenic walk across the cliff top at Pennard, Gower, for their first date and they say their loving family has kept their union strong.

They married in a church ceremony in 1949 with 40 guests and now have two children, four grandchildren and five great-grandchildren.

Meanwhile, Patricia Chesney, 83, celebrated 61 years of marriage to her husband John, 84, on 2 February and joked her advice to young couples was to "run, run, run".

She added: "Let your husband think he is the boss, as long as he obeys his wife."

The Chesneys met on a Saturday night in Queen Street, Cardiff, in 1959 before tying the knot four years later and having a daughter.

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"Let you husband think he's the boss," jokes Patricia Chesney, who has been married to husband John since 1963

The Llys Cyncoed residents were treated to a special dinner complete with Champagne, cocktails and canapes in the care home's dining room decorated with heart-shaped balloons and rose petals scattered on the tables.

General manager Virgil Frincu said "love is certainly in the air" at the care home, adding: "It's been wonderful to encourage so many of the residents to reminisce and share fond memories from their own marriages and relationships."