Kenya femicide: Why men fail to condemn deadly misogyny
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Hours before a nationwide march in Kenya against the rising cases of femicide and other violence against women - a clip was posted on social media that captures how entrenched misogyny is in the East African nation.
At a site in the capital, Nairobi, where some young women were gathering for the protest last weekend, two men were filmed arguing about the need for such a demonstration.
"Men have suffered because of women," one of them complains going on to say that in his view women just use men for their money.
As the heated discussion continues, his companion butts in and they both start pointing towards the camera and shouting to the women: "We are going to kill you."
This snippet was shared by renowned Kenyan activist Boniface Mwangi, external along with the words: "As a man and father, these men don't speak for the men I know."
But the problem, as he notes, is that very few men in Kenya are openly coming out to speak out against such attitudes.
"We as Kenyan men should speak boldly, and loudly," he said about femicide, which is when a woman is killed because of her gender.
It is a sentiment shared by Felix Kiprono, head of media at data analysis and visualisation company Odipo Dev.
He and his colleagues recently released a report about Kenya's alarming rise in female killings - the country is reeling from at least 10 reported murders of women in the first month of the year alone.
One gruesome killing involved a victim whose dismembered remains were found stuffed into a plastic bag at a short-term rental apartment.
Titled Silencing Women, he says the report "aims to shed light on the disturbing reality of women's lives at risk, providing crucial information to address victim blaming, under-reporting and to inspire meaningful action".
But Mr Kiprono has been appalled by the reaction to its findings, in particular on social media which is sometimes described in Kenya as a "manosphere" - a network of online platforms focusing on the promotion of masculinity and opposed to feminism.
He told the BBC the blowback had been across all platforms: "Not just on Twitter but even on TikTok, which is typically known as a safe space."
Apparently, it's difficult to get men to agree to talk about this matter publicly"
With the report now in the public domain, he and his team have been getting many requests for media interviews.
"Apparently, it's difficult to get men to agree to talk about this matter publicly," he said.
Another aspect to the reactions is that men have shown little inclination to become involved in discussions online on the issues the report highlights.
"As we were looking at the analytics, we were realising, particularly on Instagram and TikTok, that about 90% of the people that were engaging are women," Mr Kiprono said.
"There seems to be a huge disparity in the male versus female attitudes towards gender-based violence in general."
One man who has chosen to speak out is Kenyan DJ, podcaster and TV host Moses Mathenge, popularly known as "DJ Moz".
Two weeks ago, he was one of the first to castigate femicide, posting a lengthy video, external on his social media platforms, along with the words: "Femicide This needs to STOP.
"We have lost too many women (wives, mothers, daughters, sisters, friends, children) to this monstrous act of violence."
He says it took his colleague, podcast producer Kate Wangila, to get him to take a stance.
"Because of a rising number of femicide cases, she was like: 'Moz, you need to do something about this.' And I'm glad that she nudged me," he said.
DJ Moz decided to go a step further and investigate the global statistics on femicide - and what he found shocked him.
"You know the crazy thing - Africa has the highest number of femicide cases in the world. Those are not things that we should be proud of as Africans," he said.
A few men did take part in the march against femicide last weekend
According to UN Women, external, data from 2022 indeed showed that "Africa recorded the highest absolute number of female intimate partner and family related killings with an estimated 20,000 victims".
This was followed by "18,400 in Asia, 7,900 in the Americas, 2,300 in Europe and 200 in Oceania".
DJ Moz, who has worked at faith-based organisations, believes that it is time for religious institutions to step up and fight misogyny in the largely Christian country.
"We need to stand up because sometimes in the church, we propagate and tell women, just to stay in their marriages [even though]... this woman is being beaten by her husband.
"Then by the time she dies, we start talking about how we knew that this issue was happening."
However, Mr Kiprono believes that it will take a long time to shed toxic masculinity from Kenyan society.
"The patriarchal mindset… affects men so much, and we don't even realise how much it affects us.
"And people think, 'It's not my fight.' This needs to change."
He brings home the point as we conclude our interview by drawing attention to the fact that every time a woman wants to leave her home, she has to factor in measures to ensure that she remains safe - whatever her destination.
If she has a car or enough income to take cabs late then she can be more relaxed but if not then she will probably want to start heading home earlier then her male counterparts.
This is something most Kenyan men never have to consider for themselves.
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