Migrant crisis: The refugee's post which moved thousands

8 September 2015

Picture of Tat Way Lay and his mother in Ho Chi Minh City in early 2015 — Image caption,
Last year Tat Wa Lay and his mother visited the house they used to live in in Vietnam before they fled

A Vietnamese man's Facebook post on his experience of arriving in the UK as a refugee has been liked and shared by tens of thousands of people, amid the current debate about Europe's migrant crisis.

Tat Wa Lay's post, external talks about how he was one of thousands of "boat people" who fled during and after the Vietnam War to escape persecution and poverty - his family was rescued from a rickety boat by a British Navy ship and sent to Hong Kong, before they were settled in the UK.

Now living back in Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam, he told the BBC's Nga Pham he had no idea his post would attract such attention.

It's 1984 and my mother arrives in the UK with 89 other Vietnamese refugees known as the "boat people". With just the cloths on her back and her four children, she's confronted with the local people of a council estate. Unable to speak English, she expects hostility and racism. And then this happens. A young scruffy looking man steps up, takes off his coat and handed it to the freezing cold refugees. A gesture so touching, that everybody later followed. People then went home to fetch clothes they didn't need and handed it to the refugees and ensured they were all fed and watered. My mother has never forgot that moment, when she was able to use a coat to wrap her boys so they could stop shivering. My brother can still remember the warmth that coat gave him and it stays in his heart to this day. It's these things that British people do, that make make them truly British. My family has never forgotten what England has done for them.

"When I shared it on my Facebook page, I just wanted to reach out to all the people who have a negative opinion about the current refugee crisis.

I guess I wanted to change their mindset, to tell them that refugees are really not bad people and that we have so much to give back to the society.

I also wanted to promote kindness. I am totally overwhelmed by people's reactions to my Facebook post. It was shared more than 100,000 times just over a couple days.

Facebook replies to Tat Wa Lay on his post on migrants: This is LUSH I hope You don't mind but I shared it !! What is the world coming to when one human being cant help another !!/ Truly amazing story/ This isn't about being British or English or any so called nationality. .... this is about being a human being" — Image caption,
Tat Wa Lay was flooded with scores of comments on his Facebook post

Facebook replies to Tat Wa Lay on his post on migrants: "Shared in a Danish group "venligboerne" a facebook group for Danish people who wants to show kindness and generosity to the refugees." — Image caption,
A woman also shared his post in a Danish group

So many people called and wrote to me how they found it moving, some even cried.

An old neighbour who had problems with us refugees when I was growing up in Bristol also contacted me to apologise about the past.

My Vietnamese friends joke that I have become famous, though it was of course not my intention.

Facebook replies to Tat Wa Lay on his post on migrants: My parents made the same journey, and though I am now a father myself, I don't think I'll ever be half the man my father is for making the journey. My mum tells me stories of all the death along the way, but you'd never know it as they have been humbled to this day by the acceptance of our adopted country. I love this country and I know it's our turn to provide the care it once so deeply had." — Image caption,
His post struck a chord with many readers, particularly other refugee and migrant families

Facebook replies to Tat Wa Lay on his post on migrants: "Such a beautiful story. We arrived as refugees in Australia in '79. My parents also have similar stories. I was only a baby with my 2 older brothers. Mum & Dad still remember the kindness they received also. Time to help others in need." — Image caption,
Children of Vietnamese refugees in other countries also shared their stories

I came back to Vietnam for the first time in 2010 to rediscover my roots. Since then, I've gone back and forth a few times.

I first found a job teaching English at a school in Ho Chi Minh City, and I am currently still working for the same school, only now I'm developing iPad apps to help kids learn English.

I plan to go back to the UK next year but I'm having so much fun here so it will probably be very difficult to leave.

My message to the people in Britain? Very simple: 'Happiness comes from making others happy'."

A note on terminology: The BBC uses the term migrant to refer to all people on the move who have yet to complete the legal process of claiming asylum. This group includes people fleeing war-torn countries such as Syria, who are likely to be granted refugee status, as well as people who are seeking jobs and better lives, who governments are likely to rule are economic migrants.