Family 'disgusted' after grave decorations removed

A woman with greying blonde hair and a man stand next to a gravestone decorated with a bouquet of flowers. The man is wearing a green t-shirt and the woman has a black top and a beige cardigan.Image source, BBC / Harry Parkhill
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Tracy Fyfe and Timothy Baxter say decorations and ornaments were removed from a family grave and left in a plastic bag

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A family has branded a church authority decision to remove ornaments from their loved one's grave "disgusting and disrespectful".

The grave of Ian Fyfe, at St Michael and All Angels Church, Cammeringham, near Lincoln, had been adorned with plaques, ornaments and bouquets of flowers.

But the items were removed and found by family in a plastic bag last week after they were judged to "contravene the regulations".

The Parochial Church Council (PCC) said it had implemented Church of England rules and commented: "Inevitably people have different views on what is, or is not, appropriate."

A image of a grey coloured headstone marking a grave. It is surrounded by multiple plaques, bouquets of flowers and plastic bags with flowers.Image source, BBC / Harry Parkhill
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The grave at St Michael and All Angels Church, Cammeringham, had been adorned with flowers and plaques

The PCC said it had sent out a letter to the family of Mr Fyfe before the items were removed.

Tracy Fyfe, who was married to her husband for 28 years and had three children with him, described the grave as tidy and said she did not understand why there was a problem.

"They [PCC] don't understand what it does to people, they just have these rules and all of a sudden, bang everything is gone.

"I think it's mean. It's horrible."

Mr Fyfe's son, Timothy Baxter, said the situation had made him feel less able to commemorate his father.

"It's disgusting, and disrespectful, we're trying to remember my dad and remember him in the best way," he said.

"We're trying to make his grave colourful, so when he's looking down on us we're still keeping his spirit going."

A man with grey hair and wearing a green t-shirt holds up a letter. He is standing in a grass covered graveyard surrounded by trees.Image source, BBC / Harry Parkhill
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Mr Baxter said the incident was 'disgusting' and left him feeling unable to commemorate his father

The PCC said the rules relating to graves are "laid down in order to preserve the nature of the churchyard and its surroundings".

"It is not unusual for notices to be displayed to alert people to the removal of items should they contravene the regulations," it added.

"This gives an opportunity for them to be removed by families/friends themselves prior to their removal."

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