'I've waited two years to name my son's killer'

Ben Moncrieff wearing a black hoodie with a yellow logo on the upper left sleeve. He has short brown hair and is posing for a picture with his arms folded. It is dark and in the background you can see an open park area with wooden picnic benches and trees. Image source, Family Handout
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Ben Moncrieff died from a single stab wound to his chest after an altercation with a complete stranger

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The mother of a teenager who was fatally stabbed in the chest while trying to defuse an argument says it is a "relief" to finally be able to name his killer.

Ben Moncrieff, 18, bled to death on the pavement after being attacked outside a McDonald's in Bath in May 2023.

The identity of his 15-year-old killer was concealed for legal reasons, but since he turned 18 on 13 September, he has been publicly named as Aiden Lai.

Sharon Hendry, Ben's mum, is calling for reporting restrictions to be lifted on minors found guilty of murder to hopefully act as a "deterrent" for knife crime.

Lai, from south London, was found guilty of murder in October 2023 and was handed a life sentence with a minimum term of 15 years.

"I've waited over two years for this opportunity to say 'Aiden Lai committed this crime and stole Ben's life'," Ms Hendry said.

"It gives me that freedom to speak. It's a real relief, it's empowering."

Sharon Hendry sitting on a black leather sofa in her living room, wearing a black and white polka dot blouse. She has short, dark red hair and blue eyes. On the wall behind her there is a large black and white picture of Ben, which underneath reads ‘fly high my angel’.
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Ms Hendry said being able to freely name her son's killer is "empowering"

The two teenagers did not know one another and police later said Ben "happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time".

Mark Cotter KC, prosecuting, said: "The defendant entered into an argument with a friend of Mr Moncrieff and Mr Moncrieff entered as a peacemaker."

Children appearing in youth or crown courts in England and Wales - whether as a victim, witness or defendant - cannot be identified if they are under the age of 18.

But Ms Hendry said this legal clause only enables killers to "hide behind their age".

"He took to the stand in a school uniform to look younger, to play on his age, and that kept him hidden from the public eye," she said.

"It just felt so wrong, like the law was more on his side than our side."

Ben Moncrieff wearing a thick padded black coat with the hood up, smiling slightly at the camera. He is sitting in an igloo with green florescent lights shining through the icy walls. Image source, Family Handout
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Ben Moncrieff was murdered while trying to intervene in a heated argument

She added that Lai, whom she described as a "dangerous individual" with "no regard for human life", will be eligible for parole at the age of 30.

"Knife crime needs a stronger stance," she said. "Perpetrators need to be named and sentences need to be longer.

"We need to deter young men from going out with knives. We need to identify people who do this and say 'if you commit this crime, you are going to be named'."

A childhood picture of Ben Moncrieff kneeling on the floor of his living room beside his childhood dog, Barney. It is a large brown and black German Shephard, and Ben is holding a pair of blue sunglasses over his eyes to pose for a photo. In the background there is a patterned cream wallpaper, wooden floors, a white radiator and a grey sofa. Image source, Family Handout
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Earlier that day, Ben had got his first tattoo of their family dog Barney, and was keen to go out and show it off to friends

Ms Hendry says she is "haunted every single minute of every day" imagining the pain and terror her son endured in his final moments.

After receiving a frantic call from his girlfriend in the early hours of the morning to say Ben had been stabbed, Ms Hendry rushed to his side - but was too late.

"I didn't have time to speak to him, hold his hand, tell him I love him or anything," she said.

"He died on the pavement in the street, surrounded by distraught friends. I can't think of a worse nightmare."

A black and white image of Ben Moncrieff. He is wearing a hoodie and looking over his right shoulder towards the camera with a wide smile. Image source, Family Handout
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Ben would have celebrated his 21st birthday today

Today, Ben Moncrieff should have been celebrating his 21st birthday with friends.

Instead, his grieving loved ones will gather to release a balloon tribute in his memory.

"When he took Ben, he took me with him. It has destroyed my life. When this happens you don't live anymore, you just exist," Ms Hendry said.

"Hopefully Ben's loved ones can feel some sort of justice by Aiden Lai having his anonymity lifted. I feel this monster did not deserve to be protected."

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