'They are not alone' - Antrim area nursepublished at 18:10 British Summer Time 16 April 2020
Marie-Louise Connolly
BBC News NI Health Correspondent
Covid 19 has thrown up so many issues and perhaps most poignantly this one – families not being able to say goodbye.
The health secretary Matt Hancock’s words started a conversation in NI.
Health Minister Robin Swann ruled it out for NI but has asked for the issue to be reviewed.
But - if you even stop to think of the practicalities of that PPE gear - having masks fitted, while grieving, with the public perhaps bringing the virus into wards when you look at it in the bright light of day it just doesn’t seem very practical.
It also raises other issues as this guidance Mr Hancock talked about says only one member of a family would be allowed at the bedside.
Today I met Catherine Coulter, a nurse at Antrim Area Hospital, who was coming off shift and exhausted.
She wanted to take the opportunity to tell families that when that occasion arises that they can’t be there, she is.
“I held the patient’s hand," she told me.
"At these times it is especially poignant to make sure that I am at that bedside and that the patient is comfortable, pain free and when they pass away it is dignified.
"They are not on their own.
"The family had told me to tell the patient that they loved them. They told me what she had been like so at least I had a concept of the person in the bed – what she had accomplished in her life, the family she had.
"I tried to convey to her the support and love she had and how much they wish they could have been there," she said.