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Can a Facebook friend request be 'harassment'?

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    31 October 2017
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Sharmeen Obaid-ChinoyImage source, Getty Images
BySecunder Kermani
BBC News, Pakistan

A filmmaker touched off a debate in Pakistan revolving around one question - can a Facebook friend request ever be considered harassment?

It began with a visit to the hospital by the sister of Oscar-award winning Pakistani filmmaker Sharmeen Obaid-Chinoy. After the treatment, the sister received a friend request from her doctor.

That prompted an angry Twitter outburst by the filmmaker - and a social media storm about the definition of harassment:

Tweet by Sharmeen Obaid: "There are zero boundaries in Pakistan! Lat night my sister went to AKU emergency and the doctor who tended to her tried to add her on Facebook."Image source, Sharmeen Obaid / Twitter
Tweet by Sharmeen Obaid: "I don't quite understand how doctor tending tow emergency patients thinks it's OK to take a female patient info and add her on Facebook! Unethical.Image source, Sharmeen Obaid / Twitter
Tweet by Sharmeen Obaid: "Unfortunately the doctor messed with the wrong women in the wrong family and I will definitely report him. Harassment has to stop!"Image source, Sharmeen Obaid / Twitter

Obaid-Chinoy's description of the Facebook request as "harassment" triggered an angry response from many Pakistanis claiming she had overreacted. Others supported her, claiming the often abusive reaction she received revealed the misogyny of her critics.

One of Obaid-Chinoy's most vocal detractors was journalist Ali Moeen Nawazish, who wrote on his own Facebook page that comparing a social media request to harassment was "ridiculous." He added "Whats next, asking for a pen is harassment… Looking at someone for three seconds will be harassment???"

In his post, he also said that the claim "is actually taking away from real victims of harassment."

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The journalist concluded by criticising Obaid-Chinoy for "Pakistan shaming."

Nawazish later claimed that the doctor had been fired as a result of the tweets, however reports indicate that he has been suspended from Aga Khan University Hospital in Karachi while an internal investigation takes place.

Obaid-Chinoy, who won acclaim for her documentaries on "honour killings" and acid attack victims, has faced similar accusations in the past. She's been accused of being a "traitor" to Pakistan in relation to her work which exposes violent and misogynistic cultural traditions prevalent in certain parts of Pakistani society. Her tweet storm renewed those criticisms and she was repeatedly accused of having harmed the country's international image.

Some suggested she exemplified the phrase "wrong women in the wrong family" and called her an elitist. She, however, subsequently clarified she was referring to the fact that "women in my family are strong" and had not meant to "suggest a sense of privilege or power."

But that didn't stop many Pakistanis on Twitter from attacking the filmmaker. Some posted photographs of her with other men - apparently suggesting these images made her a hypocrite for complaining about alleged harassment. Facebook pages were created encouraging people to send Obaid-Chinoy friend requests.

Tweet - a photo of the filmmaker with Hollywood star Matt Damon and the text: "Half of Sharmeen Obaid's body is touching this Hollywood actor but if a bald doctor sends her a friend request she feels harassed."Image source, Saith Abdullah / Twitter

Many others, including both men and women, questioned whether a friend request amounted to harassment.

Tweet from Hamza Ali Abbasi: "Even before fame, had lots of women who added me on FAcebook because they randomly met me, didn't go around pursuing "harassment" charges against them.Image source, Hamza Ali Abbasi / Twitter

But Obaid-Chinoy did find some support in newspaper columns and on social media. Her defenders included Pakistani writer Bina Shah, who told the BBC she wasn't surprised by "the kind of abuse and vitriol" directed at the filmmaker.

"Any time you try to fight against (the patriarchy) you get an immediate backlash," Shah said.

In a subsequent statement Obaid-Chinoy wrote that "The conversation has unfortunately steered far from the safety of women, unchecked unethical practises & harassment."

She revealed that the doctor in question had conducted a "very private examination" of her sister before going online and "leaving comments on photographs & trying to add her as a Facebook friend."

She clarified she regularly receives "unsolicited friendship requests from strangers" but that she considered this episode a "serious breach of patient-doctor privilege."

The Pakistan Medical and Dental Council referred the BBC to their ethical guidelines, which don't specifically mention social media but do state that a "professional position must never be used to pursue a relationship of an emotional or sexual nature with a patient, the patient's spouse, or a near relative of a patient."

The doctor at the centre of the controversy has not been named publicly. He has, however, reportedly received a job offer from another hospital in Karachi.

Facebook post from Hashmanis hospital offering the doctor a jobImage source, Hashmanis Hospital / Facebook

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